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Reflections on Sun Kil Moon, Meredith Graves, and calling bros on shit →

loosestrifeband:

I recently saw Sun Kil Moon (the project of Mark Kozelek) play in Montreal. I went to the show because I legitimately love the album Benji even thoughI had, from the start, some weird feelings about the record. There are moments on it that make me uncomfortable – moments where it leans towards macho, bro bullshit – but I felt it possible to look past these moments since, in a way, this record is can be seen as a progressive. It is a record that uses proper names, telling the stories of real people with real detail; it is an album where the author openly situates himself within the context of these stories, in relation to these characters. In short, it is an album where people are not simply objects in relation to a desiring subject (the male writer); it is an album where people have names, distinct characteristics, and real relationships of various kinds (friendship, family, romantic, etc). Sadly, this is a rare thing especially amongst male folks singers (in my experience).

 

Going into the show, I had a nagging fear that Mark Kozelek  would dip into misogynist asshole territory but I set these fears aside, hoping  and, unfortunately,  my fears were quickly affirmed when, early in the set, Kozelek launched into a story about a female fan who praised Benji saying “Mark, you’ve finally made a masterpiece.” A masterpiece. Kozelek’s response was , “Bitch, please. I’ve been making masterpieces since before you were born.*”  The first lesson I learned was that I should listen to my intuition when my asshole-bro meter is being triggered.

 

The saddest part, to me, of the obnoxious, asshole bro posturing that was Kozelek’s performance (complete with his patronizing treatment of the audience for being good little passive listeners, not like those "fucking hillbillies" in Raleigh, and being attractive – he praised all the pretty girls in Montreal, fuck off) was that nobody seemed to be bothered by his. No one spoke up, no one held him accountable, we all just let this middle aged white man act as if he owned the place – something we seem to do with many middle aged white men….many of whom, do own the fucking place (cuz that’s how privilege and private property work). So, I was stoked to read this article by Meredith Graves from Perfect Pussy because it deftly calls Kozelek’s actions for what they are: “emotional abuse” in the form of misogynistic, homophobic and sexually aggressive behaviour that reflects “a dangerous patriarchal herd mentality.” Her piece expresses this better than I can, so I encourage you to read it.

The second lesson that I learned from watching this Mark Kozelek drama came after reading this piece by Graves.  There was a moment in his Montreal show where Kozelek aid something along the lines of “What to want from me?” It was a rhetorical kind of question – he didn’t actually seem to want a response, as it was his stage, not ours. But, in the moment, I had the impulse to yell “Take Feminism 101.” I repressed the impulse because 1) I didn’t want to anger this man and risk his mood changing…him stopping the show…his angry response and, 2) I didn’t want the crowd to be disappointed by the change in mood (potentially) caused by the comment or, further, to hate me for angering him. And that’s fucked up. This man’s demeanor – his notoriously cantankerous/aggressive relationships to audiences mixed with the mild praise he was doting on us for being pretty, quiet listeners – made me feel as though I couldn’t talk back for fear of waking the beast. And that’s male violence right there. That’s the patriarchy clearly playing on stage at the Ukrainian Federation.  

My lesson, from this is, and from my nagging guilt for not speaking up, is that I can’t be afraid to be quiet. As a white man I carry so much privilege and this was a spot where I could have used that and suffered the potential anger invoked by calling out this shit publicly. Sadly, there will probably be a ‘next time’ when I can try to implement this lesson in practice.

*This may not be 100% verbatim as i’m pulling from memory…but the sense is the same.

— 6 days ago with 2 notes
"The Western arrogance of feeling that it has everything to teach others and nothing to learn from them is not just."
Martin Luther King Jr., “Why I am Opposed to the War in Vietnam,” 1967 (via fotojournalismus)

(Source: revolutionary-afrolatino, via fotojournalismus)

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young lil kim. gorgeous.

young lil kim. gorgeous.

— 1 week ago with 2 notes
#lil kim 

thisiscaucasian:

Armenia faces a severe crisis of widespread violence against women and children. Due to the cultural and safety concerns of reporting violence, many women do not report violence and are often stigmatized for doing so. As a result, the Armenian government is able to deny the problem. Furthermore, Armenia currently has weak domestic violence laws and no law addressing sexual violence. Encouraging greater reporting and greater awareness of the problem is the first step to legislative advocacy and legal enforcement. (x)

Today, October 1, is National Day Against Domestic Violence in Armenia.

(Source: our-armenia)

— 2 weeks ago with 361 notes
armenian mansplainers

i’m feeling really frustrated, yet again, with the mansplaining and general attitude towards folks who “dissent” specifically within the armenian community. i would LOVE to talk some more about this with anyone who is willing. the short-sightedness, the lack of self-criticism and inability to look within oneself in the armenian community. arrogance, EGO. can’t seem to add the possibility to answer to this post, so PM me. 

— 3 weeks ago with 2 notes
#armenia  #armenians 
cuttlefishbones:

superwholock-under-the-stairs:

phanfuckingtastic:

do people actually dress like this

yes

yes. east lansing, mi.

HAHAHAHAHAHA AOMGGGGGGGG THE BROS!!! this is so good!!

cuttlefishbones:

superwholock-under-the-stairs:

phanfuckingtastic:

do people actually dress like this

yes

yes. east lansing, mi.

HAHAHAHAHAHA AOMGGGGGGGG THE BROS!!! this is so good!!

(Source: wannajoke)

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"That was GOB."

"That was GOB."

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siddharthasmama:

officialmillerhighlife:

everchanginghorizon:

Another species to be added to the ever-growing tick-list:

Africa’s Western Black Rhino has been officially declared EXTINCT. Poaching and lack of conservation have led the subspecies of black rhino to extermination, while the Northern White Rhino is ‘teetering on the brink of extinction’.

    Way to go, humanity.

what’s sad is hardly anyone fucking cares or wants to hear about it let alone talk about it

very disturbing and tragic.

siddharthasmama:

officialmillerhighlife:

everchanginghorizon:

Another species to be added to the ever-growing tick-list:

Africa’s Western Black Rhino has been officially declared EXTINCT. Poaching and lack of conservation have led the subspecies of black rhino to extermination, while the Northern White Rhino is ‘teetering on the brink of extinction’.

    Way to go, humanity.

what’s sad is hardly anyone fucking cares or wants to hear about it let alone talk about it

very disturbing and tragic.

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— 3 weeks ago with 95741 notes
"Our identity is fictional, written by parents, relatives, education, society."

Genesis Breyer P-Orridge (via arabarabarab)

Eckhart Tolle has a lot to say about identity, stemming from ego. I highly suggest reading “A New Earth” even if it is Oprah-approved.

(Source: ellliot, via ripsime)

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where is this photo from? saw it posted on a blog, no source! here

where is this photo from? saw it posted on a blog, no source! here

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this-is-not-jewish:

lodubimvloyaar:

docloudscomeinpurple:

Oh look this tokenizing bullshit again. 

Look, to everyone who posts these photos with the notion that you’re proving something about the illegitimacy of Israel and Zionism:
I’m not going to go over the reasons NK are not representative of religious Jews. Not tonight. I’m focusing on something else this evening.
These men, these ludicrous fundamentalist men who belong to a tiny sect within Judaism that was founded in 1938. These men who travel to be palsy with Mahmoud Ahmedinejad. These men who stand out on the pavement with signs denouncing Zionism, who are so eagerly photographed and blogged and reblogged by Gentiles who also denounce Zionism. These men in their streimels and their black hats and their coats and their beards and their payess: do you have any idea how disrespectful you are toward them?
You know nothing about their beliefs, their history, or their way of life, and frankly, you don’t care. You don’t understand why they oppose Israel’s existence. (Hint, human rights have nothing at all to do with it.) You don’t know the roles they play within the larger Jewish world, the alliances and rivalries and conflicts, the court cases. You don’t understand where they came from. You don’t give a damn what they do on yontiff, or how they spend their days when they’re not protesting. You don’t know where their women and children are, or indeed if they have any, and what those women and children’s lives are like, and you don’t care.
You see them in a completely decontextualized and exploitative way: Old-Country-looking Jews who dress like the cast of “Fiddler on the Roof” in European black and funny hats, look authentic as all hell to your uneducated eyes, and  conveniently uphold your hatred of Israel. Look, look, we found some real Jews, and they agree with us!
Everything they stand for besides the destruction of Israel would offend you. You don’t respect them. You have no intention of being allies to them in any way. They’re a conveniently exploitable camera shot to you, just as marginalized ethnic groups in their quaint tribal costumes have been ever since there have been cameras.
And as little as I like Neturei Karta, as a Jew, as a social justice activist, and even as a Zionist, I have to say, that sucks. You suck. Stop sucking so much.

this-is-not-jewish:

lodubimvloyaar:

docloudscomeinpurple:

Oh look this tokenizing bullshit again. 

Look, to everyone who posts these photos with the notion that you’re proving something about the illegitimacy of Israel and Zionism:

I’m not going to go over the reasons NK are not representative of religious Jews. Not tonight. I’m focusing on something else this evening.

These men, these ludicrous fundamentalist men who belong to a tiny sect within Judaism that was founded in 1938. These men who travel to be palsy with Mahmoud Ahmedinejad. These men who stand out on the pavement with signs denouncing Zionism, who are so eagerly photographed and blogged and reblogged by Gentiles who also denounce Zionism. These men in their streimels and their black hats and their coats and their beards and their payess: do you have any idea how disrespectful you are toward them?

You know nothing about their beliefs, their history, or their way of life, and frankly, you don’t care. You don’t understand why they oppose Israel’s existence. (Hint, human rights have nothing at all to do with it.) You don’t know the roles they play within the larger Jewish world, the alliances and rivalries and conflicts, the court cases. You don’t understand where they came from. You don’t give a damn what they do on yontiff, or how they spend their days when they’re not protesting. You don’t know where their women and children are, or indeed if they have any, and what those women and children’s lives are like, and you don’t care.

You see them in a completely decontextualized and exploitative way: Old-Country-looking Jews who dress like the cast of “Fiddler on the Roof” in European black and funny hats, look authentic as all hell to your uneducated eyes, and  conveniently uphold your hatred of Israel. Look, look, we found some real Jews, and they agree with us!

Everything they stand for besides the destruction of Israel would offend you. You don’t respect them. You have no intention of being allies to them in any way. They’re a conveniently exploitable camera shot to you, just as marginalized ethnic groups in their quaint tribal costumes have been ever since there have been cameras.

And as little as I like Neturei Karta, as a Jew, as a social justice activist, and even as a Zionist, I have to say, that sucks. You suck. Stop sucking so much.

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garconniere:

aloofshahbanou:

Ana Mendieta 

I just read Who is Ana Mendieta? after reading about the protests that took place this spring and can’t believe I had never heard about her before.

also quite surprised i’ve never heard of her at all. 

— 1 month ago with 1198 notes